Aamir The Tech Guy

My name’s Aamir from Florence Park and I’ve been an IT guy since 2000. During this adventure I have held various technical, sales and consultancy roles. This exposure has allowed me to gain valuable insights and skills applicable across all areas of life or profession.

It’s a Miracle I Survived Sepsis

In May 2020 I was hospitalised with sepsis, in intensive care for 5 days. Had my guardian angel sister not had an intuition gut feeling to check on me or waited 30 minute I would not be alive.

As per the best medical experts in the world, it was a) A miracle I survived, b) a miracle I didn’t suffer any internal organ damanage and c) a miracle I didn’t lose any lymbs.

In Oxford we have the best medical knowledge and experience from across the world and they were baffled.

There’s Always One

Upon awakeing I remember I had 2 self commitments, 1) I will start praying more regularly and 2) make amends with her (Yep, that one, at the time it was 13 years since I called her).

It Shouldn’t Take Long to Recover

A few seconds later I looked out over Marston from the 7th floor of the John Radcliffe, where I would spend the next week or so and I thought, as well, I’m in hospital and need to get moving, shouldn’t take too long.

Little did I know it would take me 2-4 years, yes you read this correctly - two to four years to be able to walk normally again without being super-fatigued. The journey continues one week at a time.

I still suffer from exhaustion and fatigue at times if I consistenty push myself and do not schedule recovery times. The brain, this is another deep dive in itself, I couldn’t do any brain work at all. Even today I can manage 5-20 hours a week and this varies on the time of the month, external obligations and how I managed my emotions as well as health the past 7 days.

Dealing With My Emotions

The silver lining to all this is that I wasn’t able to run away from myself or get busy in busy work and distractions. I was forced for the first time in my life to deal with my emotions (which I avoided successfully for decades) as they were inhibiting my recovery.

Reality Check

Of course I wasn’t able to do my goals as I didn’t have enough internal capacity to work towards them. The constant start and stop was infuriating, after 6 months after I got tired of crying from trying to get up and failing I reaching out to the sepsis trust.

And Then It Hit Me

The coversation was something like: Aamir: I can’t move it’s been six months Sepsis Trust: It takes time Aamir: Fine, how much time (internally thinking how many more weeks) Sepsis Trust: 6-18 months

Other key takeaways from the call were:

• We have limited energy during the day and have to be concious where we exert it, careful not to over do things
• The analogy was imagine we have 12 spoons of energy for the day
• Take it one week at a time.

And just like that (Tommy Cooper reference) the reality of how severe sepsis hit me.

New Data Points to Work From

The good news was I had new and accurate data points I could work from. Before my brain say do this, body wasn’t able to provide the necessary energy which led to failure, which maxed out my stress and anxiety levels.

With the new data points and markers I was able to readjust and then figure out slowly what the real recovery journey would look like.

Many Many Weeks Later

Now my body has recovered enough to have some surplus energy and my emotional processing protocols are working incredibly well. I am finally able to start working on the projects I envisaged in 2017. It’s all her fault!

This site documents all the skills, tools and techniques I have gained over the years working at a world-class level, covering the personal and professional space.

In the professional space I had to negotiate, manage, de-esculate charged situations, whilst always maintaining my integirty and professionalism at all times. Things that I had to figure out by myself or with very little guidance. Skills that have halped me thrive then survive in todays knowledge economy.

Tigre Flow is the main self-help, career and corporate knowledge base, which is linked to my youtube channel ToooMuchDrama :)

Thank you to all my angels for not allowing me to give up on me over the years. Let’s see how the future unfolds…

Until next time, look after your emotions!